Discipline For Tots

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Along with the love, nurturance and safety you provide for your child, the basic requirements of life, don't forget that other necessity for healthy psychological development, behavioral limits.
If parents are too permissive, children have a hard time learning to control themselves.
Parents who are too harsh and punitive risk engendering kids with self-esteem problems who grow up to be timid, self-conscious shrinking violence or rageful, devious destroyers.
Unless we make a conscious choice about it, as parents we will tend to pass on whatever we learned as children from our own parents.
This can be good or bad.
It couldn't hurt to think about this a little, even if you had compassionate, competent parents.
The purpose of discipline is to teach self-discipline.
This is something we all need to be successful in life.
It's not punishment; it's teaching.
So don't be angry when you discipline your child.
Be firm, reliable and understand that you may have to repeat the lesson a few times.
We learn by practicing.
Start early, in the first year, by designing routines and rituals that become familiar, predictable and full of love.
This helps to create a sense of security in your child, communicating that the world is a safe place that will be responsive to your child's needs.
When your child does something dangerous or socially unacceptable, simply stop her, physically, and say "No".
And give a brief, clear and simple explanation of why.
"Cars can hurt you.
" Or, "Be kind to others.
" Children are smart and they are programmed to learn.
Much of bad behavior is motivated by anger.
Your child will learn how to manage anger by watching you.
If he sees you controlling yourself and then responding thoughtfully, judiciously when he misbehaves, then he will learn it from you.

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